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Damn you cute Target sweater.  Damn you to hell!

Let me step back for a second.

For anyone who knows me in real life, or has read this blog for any period of time, knows that I am a terrible sleeper.  Always have been, sadly probably always will be.  Pre-pregnancy, I would take (generic Target brand) Unisom one to two times per week just to ensure at least a few nights of z’s.  While Unisom is reported to be safe during pregnancy, I am really set against taking anything this time.  I took a combo of Unisom and vitamin B6 (with approval of my OB) while pregnant with Jack.  And he turned out to be amazing, and kind, and smart…and crazy.  So this time around, I’m taking zilch.  And am very tired.  If I sleep more than 90 minutes at a time, I consider that a good night.

Troy was at work on Wednesday, which mean I had the bed to myself.  I was off on Thursday, and had an amazing combination of the best night of sleep I had in months (waking only four times), and the ability to sleep past 4:30 am.  That morning I was able to get two hours logged in to the garden, had an amazing behavioral report from Jack’s teacher that left me wanting to cry happy tears, I had an adorable new sweater, lunch with two dear friends I hadn’t seen in months, and finally a midwife appointment.

After months of puking, very low blood pressure (hovering at 90/60 for nine weeks), and weight loss, my appointment was kick ass.  My BP was at 110, no puking for weeks, and I had gained 3.5 pounds, finally putting me over my pre-pregnancy weight.  His kicks were so strong that he turned off the Doppler twice during the exam, and was measuring over a week ahead of my due date. My midwife and I high-fived each other, and I stepped out in to a gorgeous fall day feeling so happy and full of joy.

And to share my joy, I posted the following photo on Facebook with the caption “six months (yesterday) and feeling pretty darn great”.  Oh my friends, I was, I was feeling so darn great!

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The headless belly shot is super weird, I get it. But my mirror is low and it’s hard to get everything, including my upper face in with my stomach.

Friday morning, someone decided to poop in my Cheerios by commenting “Do you eat anything?  Is it good to be thin when ur pregnant”‘?

Blerg.  When pregnant with Jack, I was so sick and lost so much weight so quickly, that when I finally told some people at work their reaction was “oh good, we thought you had cancer”.  I couldn’t keep anything down until I was 23 weeks pregnant with that boy.  He was born at 8.5 lbs, and so strong that we quickly gave up trying to support his head and neck because he kept looking at us like “I got this people”.  When he was a baby, he was diagnosed with a dairy allergy, which as a someone breastfeeding meant no dairy for me.  I rapidly lost more weight when I cut dairy out of my diet, and I’ve talked about it on here before that I felt awful.  I was so gross looking; too thin, flat/dull (er than normal) hair, and it was just nasty.  That is what started my journey to healthier eating and part of the foundation of this blog; eating and nourishing your body.

Anyone who has been sick, really sick while pregnant will tell you they never again take the deliciousness of food for granted.  They savor it, enjoy it, and love the act of eating food and keeping it down.  And that is why this person’s comment threw me off so much.  Whatever she intended it to mean,  it implied to me that she thought I was putting vanity above the health of my child.

The exchange between us continued (me later accusing her of body shaming, her accusing me of posting on Facebook flaunting how thin I was), included a few other readers, and basically ended with me saying “I’m done” last night and going to bed.

The fact of the matter is, it wouldn’t be appropriate for someone to tell me I was too heavy and question whether or not my food choices were adding too much weight and putting my baby at risk.  No one should glorify thinness in pregnancy, but healthy and strong should be paramount.  Strong and healthy means so many different things to different people, and your ideal doesn’t get to dictate what my medical team views as “right on target”.  No matter any pregnant woman’s size, it’s not appropriate to question their choices (excluding of course drug use!).  The safest thing to say (if you know 100000000% that they are pregnant, because that opens a whole different can of worms!) to a pregnant woman is simply “you look great.  Congrats”.  Looking heavier, looking thin, or looking totally on track, doesn’t meant that person isn’t making amazing and healthy choices for their baby.

When I was pregnant with Jack, Troy and I did The Bradley Method childbirth classes. It is a series of 12 classes over three months, and one of the things stressed in the very first week is the sheer amount of protein they recommend you consume.  100 grams a day is your target, and let me tell you, that is sooooooo much protein.

I’m not a doctor and I am not giving medical advice here, but 100 grams a day is what I was taught.  My midwife this time around recommends 50-75 grams a day, which is much more doable in my opinion.  I’m going to list my daily intake below.  I don’t want this seen as a reaction to the exchange I had with the Facebook person below, because that would mean I am justifying my choices.  Justifying implies that I have done something wrong, and feeding my baby healthy food is never wrong.  Rather my intent to share is to show how little choices throughout your day can make your meals both delicious and healthy.

Breakfast #1 4:30-5 am (blech)
Every morning I have a 16 oz homemade hot cocoa.  It’s very little actual chocolate (maybe 10-20 milk chocolate chips melted in milk, and sprinkled with cinnamon) because I am very sensitive to caffeine, and too much sugar in the morning makes me feel like I’ve been pounding Mt. Dew.

The cocoa is made with whole, raw, or 2% milk.  Growing up, we only ever drank non-fat milk.  I thought milk was supposed to be watery and light blue.   I remember having dinner at a friend’s house in sixth grade.  I drank the milk they put on the table, and asked “is this melted ice cream”?  I was informed it was something called “1% milk” and my life has never been the same.  Non-fat milk makes me sad.

With my cocoa, I have an “everything” bagel with whipped cream cheese and copious amounts of smoked salmon.  There is a guy who lives in my house who makes the world’s most amazing smoked salmon.  I call him dad.  Having all those filets at my disposal is heaven.  And an apple on the side, because this is Washington and it’s fall people.  Apples are king!

Breakfast #2.  Also know as “Elevensies” 8:30-9 am
A string cheese, and a Greek yogurt.  And a handful of candy corn, because it’s fall and candy corn is the business.

Lunch 11:30 am
Leftovers from dinner the night before.  You all see my meal plans, you know what we eat for dinner, plus cut up carrots and celery.  And um, more candy corn.

Afternoon snack ~2 pm
String cheese #2, sliced apple with crunchy peanut butter.  Creamy peanut butter is the devil.  Often, a hard-boiled egg.

Dinner between 5-6 pm
We post our meal plans, so you know what we eat, but it always includes a protein, usually a starch, and often veggies.  Just like when pregnant with Jack, many veggies and I are not great friends.  Greens for the most part make me want to gag.  To get around this, I often serve “liquid salads” with dinner, which is a smoothie made with OJ (calcium!), more Greek yogurt, frozen fruit, and huge handfuls of spinach.  Because like a three-year old, or a dog who needs a worm pill, I need my greens hidden to consume them.  Now that it is fall, roasted veggies are doable (I can use the oven without hating the world) and I will happily gobble up sweet potatoes and roasted Brussels sprouts.  I will eat copious amounts of soup, so any soup I make usually includes loads of veg.  Except kale in potato soup because no.  Greens.

Dessert some time before bed
I have a few slices of Tillamook cheese with rosemary crackers.  And then most nights I have three to four medium scoops of ice cream.  The flavor changes occasionally.  I was really in to vanilla with homemade fudge sauce and peanuts for a while.  Now, Tillamook’s “Malted Moo Shake” is the king of my heart.  I highly recommend you look in to it.  I don’t even like malt, and this ice cream is like crack!

Now that I am in the second trimester, killer leg cramps are showing themselves at night.  To combat this, I’ve been having a few kiwi with my bedtime snack.  Kiwi are full of potassium, and I don’t like raw bananas.

Liquids throughout the day include a gallon of water, an 11 oz coconut water (to get more potassium), and a can of sparkling water at lunch.

Plenty of protein, plenty of good fats, and while I don’t count calories, I’m always satiated – rarely hungry, and never feeling so full it hurts.    That feeling that people get on Thanksgiving when they think it is their job to overeat?  Yeah, I refer to that as “gross full” and I hate that feeling.

Pregnant or not, it is totally easy (with planning!) to make sure your day includes a balance of healthy food and some sweets and treats.

Now, go forth, be healthy, be happy, and d0n’t make it a habit of questioning others health and diet.

Oh, and get yourself to Target for my cute sweater.  It’s fall, and everyone needs something orange and tartan-y.  Even if said sweater starts a Facebook clusterf$&k!

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27 comments on “Weight…what?”

  1. I hope your pregnancy gets better from here on in. In support of being sick and losing weight while carrying, when my sister was pregnant with her first son she weighed less at the end of the pregnancy then she did when it started and she birthed a 10 lb bruiser.

  2. Candy corn FOR THE WIN! Apples are my favorite to eat with peanut or almond butter- YUM!
    I’m sorry someone felt your pregnancy was their business {{HUGS}} And while I always gained too much weight, I could easily see how the opposite would be worse. I hope she learn the error of her ways, because she’s obviously doesn’t know jack shit about you!
    Thanks for letting us into your life ?

  3. At 6 months your baby is about 13-14 inches and about 1 lb 7 oz. Seriously, how big do you think that is? Lol You are doing great! I am so happy for you guys. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  4. I think you look great! Though I don’t envy your vomitting I wish I was one of those smaller pregnancy people! I’m 2 weeks away from baby #6 due date and it seems these last 3 pregnancies my belly has popped out immediately. With the last 3 people are always commenting on how big I am. It is so effing irritating! Or, ‘are you sure there’s only one?!” I try to be kind and laugh it off but really I think how can someone be so oblivious?! Do they really think anyone wants to hear how big they are constantly, let alone a pregnant woman.. it’s like when someone is pregnant people think any normal conversation goes out the window and they are free to say whatever they want. Before I had kids it was people always telling me I was too skinny.. wish people would stop being so hung up on other peoples bodies.. but they don’t know you so hopefully just try to brush them off! Keep doing what you think is best and you will have a beautiful healthy baby at the end of it!

  5. Are you and baby healthy? Is your medical provider satisfied with you? ‘Nuff said. Don’t worry about the naysayers. Someone’s always spoiling for a fight on social media.

  6. First of all congrats on the pregnancy! 2nd, I am so tired of people staying these types of comments that they would never say in real life. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Period.

  7. I just assumed because your taller, your bump would be smaller. More room for the kiddo! I saw what was said, I would have ignored it after a bit but that’s just me. She’s not worth your effort or frustration. I wish you a continued happy pregnancy!

    • This was my exact thought! You are taller. you are obviously ( from that photo), long torsoed and not *Top Heavy* . Add in the fact that you are not carrying extra weight and not wearing form fitting clothing.. you look NORMAL! I bet undressed the baby is more obvious. You also have the length of time between pregnancies to allow your uterus and abdominal muscles to be tight and taut.
      People just LOVE to point out others flaws!
      A shorter friend of mine was the recipient of many such comments during her first pregnancy…co workers questioned her food intake and body image concerns. Doctors sent her to High risk imaging worred baby was not growing… Delivered when baby called the shots and it was not pretty. Baby was 9lb 6 oz 22 inches long. EVERYONE was shocked.. she carried a huge child with almost no abdominal growth! the following 3 pregnancies carried similarly.. but thankfully they got smaller by the pregnancy!

      You look great! Your eating schedule reminds me of my twin pregnancy.. breakfast 1, breakfast 2 ( at work), snack1, lunch, snack2, snack 3… nothing the rest of the day b/c I was nauseated!

  8. I, too, saw your pic on my FB feed and my first thought was, “really? She’s PREGNANT? and, 6 MOS along??! She sure doesn’t look it!” Then I remembered a lot of folks don’t show as much as others, even at 6 mos. I’ve seen several women, especially very fit women, who keep fit during pregnancy and don’t pack on the unnecessary extra poundage (and generally they come out winners in the end and have an easier recovery). I think we are all used to seeing really huge bellies when we see pregnant women so I can certainly understand someone (like myself) being a bit in disbelief at first glance. HOWEVER, that does not excuse *anyone* from making off-putting comments to anyone else for ANY reason. The world is already full of hate, the last thing we need to do is spread more of it around. We need to be mindful, especially as women talking to other women, to be encouraging and supportive. So, GOOD FOR YOU! I hope the next several months are much more enjoyable! <3

  9. Great post. You look great!

  10. That is crazy that someone body – shamed you while pregnant. You are showing about as much as I did when I was pregnant with Pickle (she was born at 25 weeks, so around six months). With Baby Bear, I looked about eight months along at six months. Every woman is different and every pregnancy is different and the only person who gets to have an opinion is your medical provider. Gah.

    Glad you’re feeling better! I hope it’s all uphill from here.

  11. hy·per·em·e·sis
    hīpəˈreməsis/

    severe or prolonged vomiting.”the clinical practicability is limited by a higher degree of side effects, especially hyperemesis”persistent severe vomiting leading to weight loss and dehydration, as a condition occurring during pregnancy.
    hyperemesis gravidarum
    “hyperemesis gravidarum occurs in approximately 0.5 to 2 per cent of pregnancies”

    Oh joy, I was in the 2% as well. Took copious amounts of phenergan 🙁 with all 3 pregnancies and ended up in the hospital dehydrated as well. I feel your pain, Sarah. I actually had a dentist ask if I had been bulimic when I was younger, the enamel on my teeth was so pitted. A horrible condition to suffer through during one of the happiest times in a woman’s life. So glad to hear you are feeling better!!

  12. I love how you choose to handle these situations. If you haven’t mixed a bag of candy corn with salted peanuts yet you are missing out!

  13. I think your eating plan sounds healthy and tasty, so you are doing good feeding yourself and your baby to be. The sweater is cute.

  14. Congratulations! You look great!
    Perhaps that ‘nutjob’ does not realize that you are tall and that you have a little more room from ribcage to hip than others might have.
    Yay, you!

  15. Freakin’ Food Police. One basically wants to b**ch slap people who get all up in one’s business about one’s food choices. Seriously, who are these people? I think you look amazing in your cute sweater with your precious cargo in his compact baby-mobile. God bless you.

  16. 1) one’s body is really not anyone’s business but that individual and their care team, pregnant or no.

    2) you’ve had a really tough pregnancy but even if it weren’t, I’d be willing to bet your bump would still be very small due to your height. I’m 6’1″ and had the smoothest pregnancy possible, gained 55lbs total and still looked small throughout. In fact my belly consistently measured 1-2cm small at every Dr visit. And my boy was born 9lb 5oz 22 inches. A long torso really makes a difference, as my aunt noted, “pregnant doesn’t look so bad on six feet!”

  17. Regarding the trouble sleeping, have you tried relaxation tracks, I can throughly recommend the Hypnobirthing hub tracks that you can get on iTunes. I got parts 4 & 5, not the whole course, really good for getting to sleep, would have been good for the birth itself had it not been for the need for an emergency Caesarian. Best of luck.

  18. I remember how great I felt when I realized if I eat every two or three hours, it might stay down, with my third baby. Oh joy!! With my second baby walking into the hospital to delver I didn’t’ even have a belly. I had gained thirty pounds but most people didn’t know I was expecting. I have a friend who is six foot and big boned. Her babies are all over ten pounds. Half grown kiddos. She has a bit of a belly right before she pops out a baby. I have another friend who is due a few weeks after you. People are asking her if it is twins or triples. Ouch. Moral of all this gibberish, everyone got a baby! That is all that matters.

  19. I was huge and gained almost 100 lbs during my pregnancy and was puking 8 times a day and couldn’t keep any food down. The idea of any protein made me ill. I can’t believe how much you eat and how skinny you are but everyone has their own healthy. My pregnancy was not healthy but I was just trying to make it through. You are doing great!!! Hope this one goes better this time around 🙂

  20. I would have told the troll where she could go stick her head. Don’t know how you managed to keep it together as long as you did before telling her you were done. Kuddos to you. Strong and healthy is right – just keep on doing what you’re doing and let the idiots show themselves for the true a**holes they really are. You can’t fix stupid.

  21. Dear Sarah, I am sorry that someone made you feel so bad. I hope you can leave it behind you fast. You’re health is good, you’re feeling good, looking good is a real bonus but not very important when pregnant. (cute sweaters on the other hand, are very, VERY important!)
    I think you look normal. But we are so used to see overweight people that a lot of people don’t recognise healthy weight.
    I am overweight, have been for a great deal of my life, would love to change it but it is very difficult. I could say “I want to look like you” But that is not very realistic. My build is very different and looking like someone else is not what’s important.
    But I really want to be healty like you, fit and energetic (if slept enough). I want to take care of my body en be good to it. Just like you do. And you are one of the people who inspire me to do just that. Even though there are a lot of things different, since I live in the Netherlands, I love reading your recipes and your canning adventures. (and your other post for that matter). You also make me laugh so hard many many times.

    So long story short, I think you are great, I am very happy you are pregnant and that you are feeling good and that your baby is growing like he should. Lots of love and a big chubby hug!

  22. So Sarah, I have been quietly following/stalking you for a while, and it is extremely rare that I ever comment on anything online (I’m shy like that). But I just want to say, you look great and the body-shaming person should be ashamed of her own self for being a jerk. As someone who didn’t show at all with her first kid until after 6 months, and then seemed to pork up with the second one at about 3 months, I understand from both ends how judgmental fools can be when it comes to baby weight. And having only been able to eat orange and white foods for the first 3 months with each kid (yes, orange and white, weird I know), I get how difficult it can be to keep things down and nutrition on an even keel. You are awesome, amazing, and inspiring, and don’t let the crazies get you down. And love the sweater!

  23. Love love love your blog! Congrats on the pregnancy – and I do think you look great!

  24. Hi Sara
    Thank you so much for this post. I’m pregnant for the first time, and at one point thought it would never happen (thank you also for your infertility posts, I was too emotional to comment, but you gave me so much hope and feelings of solidarity). Thank you for showing that everyone is different, I often feel like I don’t know what I’m doing and worried about every potential mistake with what I eat or do right now. I really appreciate that you post what you eat throughout the day, it was really encouraging. Wishing you absolutely the best for the rest of your pregnancy and beyond.